Do you feel like you should be more assertive at work or at home? Do you wish you could say something and get something off your chest, yet you’re afraid that you’ll be beaten down?
I’ve been there. I’d be all ready to come out with my point, my argument, only to begin and be shot down. If you wanted an argument, you’d win. I’d do anything to avoid an argument. It was a case of he who shouts loudest, wins. I hated it. Yet, I’d only grumble to myself about it and nobody else.
It doesn’t have to be be like that for you any more.
There is a secret technique that can help you…
What’s the technique?
It’s EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).
Note, assertiveness should not be confused with aggressiveness. Aggressiveness rises out of anger. If you feel that you are angry, you feel your heart beating faster, you raise your voice while communicating, then you are not being assertive, but aggressive. But here is the bonus, if that is what you feel, EFT can work for you on that too.
EFT resolves and dissolves your negative emotions and limiting decisions surrounding any area. It doesn’t matter why you’re not assertive. EFT can still help you.
Maybe you fear confrontation? What ever the reason EFT can help. You can start by tapping
Even though I hate being confronted…
Even though I’m not very assertive and I don’t know why…
Even though I’m always shouted down…
Even though he just shouts at me and I can’t ever seem to get my point across…
Whatever you feel and how, EFT can help your resolve and dissolve your emotional baggage that prevents you from being more assertive. It can happen in a flash or it can be more gradual. If you have never said no before or never remained calm and put your point across, some people are shocked when you do. They just don’t expect it.
EFT and you realize this, so the emotional change and your behavior changes slowly. You too can get use to it. EFT is such a forgiving and giving techniques at the same time.
Even if you are only hesitant in certain situations i.e. work and asking for holiday. Let me guess, you do all the pre-planning possible about dates and fitting in and around your colleagues. Yet, you’re still afraid or you even feel guilty asking for the time off.
Even though I’m afraid to ask for time off…
Even though I’m made or I feel guilty for having holiday, when nobody else does…
How different could you and your life be, if you became more assertive and believed in yourself?