A person’s core beliefs affect all areas of life, from relationships to finances to health. If a person has self-sabotaging core beliefs, life feels like a struggle, and problems can seem impossible to overcome. If a person has supportive core beliefs, life flows smoothly and easily. Problems exist, but they just don’t seem as difficult to solve.
So what is a core belief? A core belief typically begins with the words “I am,” so “I am attractive” or I am ugly” is a core belief. These beliefs usually are formed between the ages of 1 and 7 as we interact with the world around us.
At that time in our life, we are like a sponge and we take everything that happens to us as being the truth. We do not have the ability to rationalize what we hear or how we are treated, so we form beliefs about ourselves that match what we see mirrored in the world around us.
If we were in an environment that provided a supportive reflection of ourselves, we formed supportive core beliefs, such as “I am smart” or “I am competent”. If we were in an environment where we received messages that said we were “bad”, “ugly” or “not good enough”, we adopted those as our core beliefs.
As a result, we carry these beliefs about ourselves throughout our lives without realizing it, unless we discover them and consciously make an effort to change them. But how does a person go about changing self-sabotaging beliefs he or she is not even aware they have?
One way to discover them is to listen to your self talk. What do you say to yourself? Are you your biggest fan, or are you your biggest critic? Do you treat yourself with respect and kindness, or with harshness and ridicule? What are the words you use when you are talking to yourself?
If you use terms like “loser,” “incompetent,” and “stupid,” these are core beliefs that get in your way. They sabotage your efforts to move forward in your life or to try new projects. They make it difficult to believe you can succeed, so oftentimes you don’t succeed to the level you are capable of achieving.
If you use terms like “winner”, “competent” and “smart”, these core beliefs support you, and even propel you, when you try to move forward. The faith you have in yourself makes you believe you can achieve anything, and consequently, you do.
So, how can a person change self-sabotaging core beliefs?
One very effective method is Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT. This technique is similar to acupuncture, but instead of using needles, fingertips are used to tap on energy meridians. This tapping frees blocked-up energy. By freeing that energy, the self-sabotaging ideas and beliefs that caused the blocked energy also are released.
Core beliefs are formed at a young age, but the good news is that a core belief that hinders you can be changed. EFT is an effective tool for bringing about that change.